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Saturday, March 27, 2010

More real :)

I can't believe it! We got our employment verification letters back apostilled today!! So much for the 15 days they normally take. I was going to brag on Reece's Rainbow's message board, but another person is having issues with Nevada getting theirs back. I guess they are 6 week backlogged right now. I feel so bad for that family because their little girl is already in an institution. They don't have those extra weeks. I guess I should be thankful that Little Man is in a foster home...I don't even have to worry about him being at an orphanage.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Starting to feel real

I have to admit, I still wonder about how real this adoption is. Maybe it's because I have thought about it so long, or because I'm afraid something will happen...but my brain just won't let me believe it's real. It was the same when we bought the house. Everyone said it was because everything went so fast. We found and then closed on the house in a little over 2 months and it's just now hitting me that we really own our house (well, we share ownership with the bank). And the adoption is feeling the same way. I look at Little Man's picture and I smile knowing he is our son. And I dream about him and wake up aching to hold him. I'm not making sense, am I??

Well, today made it feel a little more real. We got our first apostilled document. Seeing that shiny gold star'ed document attached to my birth certificate really felt important, and REAL!! It really made me excited! Let's hope that it doesn't take long for our employment verification letters to come back. They said it could take 15 days...:( But I sent a nice cover leter basically begging them to do it quicker. I hope it helps that I included a picture of Little Man with it. :0

I'm getting ready to beg...or scream!!

Honey's doctor's office changed his appointment AGAIN!! I am so frustrated! This is the 4th time they have changed it. When they tried to change it last time (a couple week ago), he calmly explained to the scheduler our situation and the need to get in soon. So, she "squeezed" him in for March 26th. Then today, the office called him and said they weren't sure why she had scheduled him for that date because the doctor doesn't even work on Fridays. GRRRRRR!! (I seem to growl so much more since I started this process). So, now, he is scheduled for a week from Monday. My SW emailed me today with the last few pieces of paperwork she needs. She said she is in the process of writing up the homestudy now, so we could be done so soon...if it weren't for his physical. :( I know, God is in control...I guess I will leave it at that.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Oh my goodness!

Shelley just got back to me! She said Little Man's country doesn't care when a notary expires as long as it is apostilled! I am so excited...I can barely contain myself! God's hand truly seems to be in this endeavor. One of the ladies from Reece's Rainbow's message board summed it up perfectly.


Isn't it great when God shows off??

GRRRRRR

I went to the post office today to mail my birth certificate and our employment verification letters down south (2 different states) to get apostilles. If you aren't familiar with adoption, apostilles are certifications done by a state to verify that the notary (that notarized your document) is actually a notary. (Or at least that's how I understand it) As I was in the post office, I looked again at our employment letters. The notary's seal expires on April 10th......this year! I know that Ukraine has very strict rules about when a notary can expire. They want at least a year out. (We are not adopting from Ukraine) I chose to send them anyway praying I wasn't wasting $30 for apostilles. If I did...I did. I have emailed Shelley to see what she thinks. It's not the end of the world, I guess...it's just so frustrating!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Yet another step

Woohoo!! Honey and I got our employment verification letters today!! They look great...they even put my married name even though I haven't changed it officially with them yet. (Long story) And Honey was able to go to the accountant's office today and pick up our 2009 taxes. We need copies of the first 2 pages of our 1040's for both the homestudy and our dossier. Have I ever said how much I hate paperwork? ;) Really, I do!!!

I think our cat really missed us while we were gone. He won't leave us alone! He wants attention all the time. (Do you think God is preparing us for having a 6 year old?)

Home again, home again

We got back from DC today. I have to say, it was a tiring vacation. Honey and I went to a conference and it was pretty good. I have to admit, I only went to one class. It was on autism and was very interesting! I don't think it was Honey's first choice, but he learned some things too.

DC is so loud! There are sirens blaring at all hours of the day and car horns honking. UGH! It made it nearly impossible to sleep. I also usually sleep with a fan so not having that white noise to help block everything out made things worse. But the time that I did sleep was hard sleep. Honey said I didn't toss and turn like I have been here at home. I am guessing that has to do with the fact that I wasn't home where I could do anything adoption related. My brain knew this so it didn't keep racing with what I needed to do. I did get a really cool freebie at the conference. Not many of the companies there had much to offer. We got a few reusable grocery bags which is always cool and a few cool balls for Little Man. I was really focused in on finding toy type giveaways this year. Maybe that's why not much appealed to me. :) So here is my cool freebie. Isn't he hilarious?

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Good day on a couple levels

Good news number 1...I had today off. The reason I had the day off wasn't that great. I had to have a mammogram and an ultrasound. When I went to the doctor last week, she found a lump that she didn't like and wanted to get it checked out. I'm 36 so I was a little freaked out. Needless to say, I didn't sleep well last night and then had to be up at 6:30 for the appointment. BUT, I happy to announce that they found nothing out of the ordinary. The lump turned out to be a lymph node that was a little enlarged, but, "it's nothing to be worried about." So, I guess that counts as good news number 2. :)

Good news number 3 is due to the fact that I had a day off during the week (almost unheard of), I got quite a few things accomplished. I made it to the town clerk's office and got another copy of our marriage license as well as a copy of our home deed. Two things checked off the dossier list. Woohoo! And I was also able to make it to the post office to get my named changed on my passport. Well, I got my picture taken and the paperwork mailed off, but I did what I could do. Cool thing...since I got my passport less than a year ago, I didn't have to pay anything to change my name. It's always a good thing, especially while in the process of adoption, to have something cost nothing.

Good news number 4...only 1 more day of work before Honey and I go on vacation. Well, it's not really a vacation. We are going to a conference. We are going to DC and I have never been there. I am excited to be able to do some site seeing when we're not doing conference stuff. Especially the Vietnam memorial. My dad's cousin died in Vietnam so his name is on the memorial. :( This is the conference where Honey and I got engaged last year in Texas. So, it's a type of anniversary, I guess. So many changes in one year! :)

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Dreaming...ugh!

I guess I shouldn't complain about my dream from early this morning. I had a dream that I was going to Little Man's country to visit him. I had an updated picture (the ones I have are about a year and a half old)...it is strange because the pictures looked like him, just him a little older. Weird how your mind works, huh? I was in a hotel getting ready to go to the airport. Honey was there encouraging me that I would see Little Man in just a little while. Then I woke up! :( My stomach is churning this morning and my arms literally ache to hold my son. I did email Shelley asking if this was a possibility...already knowing the answer. But I HAD to ask. It was like my child was calling me and I needed to try to get to him. I pray that God works it out so that we get there ASAP! I just know that he needs us!

(Don't you wish you could video tape your dreams sometimes so you could rewatch them?) Or am I just insane?

Saturday, March 6, 2010

I think I'm lucky

I normally wouldn't say that. I'm one of those people who, if something can go wrong...it will! We have been plugging along with our adoption for less than a month and we are so close to being at the end of the homestudy. We are still waiting for the bumps.

The lucky part is that I have a job...a job that keeps my mind occupied for the whole time I'm there. Well, for the most part anyway. That way, days seem to fly by. The bad part about having a full time job is finding time (during weekdays) to get adoption stuff done. Once we are at the point of sending our dossier to Little Man's country, I won't have the option of tracking our package. I mean, I can check it in the morning and later that night...but during the day, I will be at work with no access to internet. :( But that really is a good thing because then I can't obsess about it. I tend to obsess!! My poor coworkers. They know everything about our adoption process. I talk about it ALL the time!! OBSESSED!! But then again, I have talked about adoption for years and have driven everyone around me nuts. I remember when I was a kid at church, the preacher saying that you need to watch what you let into your mind because that's what will come out of your mouth. Adoption isn't a bad thing, right?? :)

Friday, March 5, 2010

My final homestudy visit

Today was pretty good! I met with our wonderful SW for my last visit. I wasn't nervous at all about this visit. When she came to our house, I was freaking out. But today was so natural for me. We met at the local child development office (good place to keep in mind once Little Man is home). Her questions were non-thought questions really. You know what I mean, right? The kind of questions that you don't really have to think about...the answer just comes out. She asked me to describe Honey. She stopped me about 5 minutes later and said she thinks she understood him. LOL! She made me cry twice. (Remember, I am a crier!) She had me talk about the foster son that I had when I was with my ex. She asked me about what happened to him after I left, and I just don't know. He stayed with my ex for about 6 months but then he went back into the system. I worry about him often and thinking about where he might be made me cry. She also asked about my family, what my parents did for work, what my brothers did, about their kids, etc. Then she asked about any other family member that was important to me. When I was little, I spent a lot of time with my Grandma. She lived very close to us and we were very close emotionally. I talked about when she died, and the tears flowed again. I think our SW felt bad, but what can you do?

I told the SW that Little Man's SW is anxious for us to get our paperwork submitted, and she grinned and said, "I will do it as fast as I can." :) So, Honey has his visit on Monday. So close!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

New blog title

When Honey and I were in Kohl's the other day, we found this beautiful piece of artwork for our wall. It said Home is where your story starts. I couldn't help it...I started crying. Now, if you know me, you know this is pretty normal. I am a crier for every reason. All I could think of is Little Man being home and knowing his story would truly begin. I'm not saying that he doesn't have a story now...his birth country and his early life are SOOOOOOOOO important and he will know all we know. He is currently in foster care and I pray that his foster family is showing him what being in a family means. But his future is with us, and his family story begins soon...being home with his Mama and Papa (and his furry brother and sister).

Another exciting thing...our family profile is set up on Reece's Rainbow!! One step closer. I'm sure we will move to the "homestudy in process" page soon. Little Man's social worker in his country is anxious for us to get our paperwork over there! We are doing our best and hope to have it there the first week or so of April. I don't dare guess at a time frame, but I hope to have him home before he turns 6.

My final meeting with our social worker is tomorrow. I'm not nervous at all. (Well, almost). Honey's is on Monday! :) Getting closer!