Saturday, April 24, 2010

Why is adoption so difficult?

I guess I really shouldn't complain. There are so many families that have been in the process so much longer than me and have had so many more setbacks. But still...why is adoption so difficult?

Our SW emailed me yesterday to say she had out homestudy done and ready for us. Now, the all important question, when can we get it from her? She is busy this weekend so we can't get it from her. I told her what my hours were on Monday and she said she doesn't think that will work either. :( I guess I could have her mail it, but my luck it will get lost in the mail. What to do?!

I am a little worried because word is that Little Man's country closes for adoption through the months of July, August and September. So we are in a race to get our paperwork over there and get our USCIS (immigration) paperwork submitted (and get approved) so we can try to get a travel date in June. I feel like that is almost impossible. I am pretty sure that Little Man's SW has his paperwork almost completed, but USCIS could be quick or take forever...who knows. And we have to have that approval before we can get a travel date. I'm not sure how Shelley did it...waiting for over a year to have her son with her forever.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

So close....yet so far

I am not good at this posting thing sometimes. When I get home from work, I buzz around the internet...reading other blogs, seeing which new children have been committed to on Reece's Rainbow, check out facebook and my email, and various other activities. What I seem to not do lately is feel like posting my process. I am sorry for that because I know what it's like to want to know what is up with an adopting family.

So here we are. My SW emailed me our homestudy draft last week. It looked really good other than out marriage date being wrong. It is very strange reading about yourself and your family from another person's perspective, but she made us sound amazing. :)

I emailed her yesterday. She had to send it to California to be signed off by her boss. Her boss sent it out Saturday and she will get it to us as soon as she gets it back. I am still waiting on my doctor's office to get my medical letter to me. When we started, there was a medical form I had to have filled out by the doctor's office for my SW. We need another letter for the dossier. I hope to have it by Saturday. We will see.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

UGH! I am hating spring

My head feels like it's gonna explode. I can't tell if it is a cold, or dreaded allergies. All I know is that I can't stop sneezing, my nose itches so much I want to rip it off and this cough tells me that my asthma is back.

For those in the adoption process, do you find yourself wondering how many seasons will pass before your little one comes home? Do you count the weekends or full moons...the weeks or months? I find everything reminds me that Little Man isn't here. Even the daffodils that are blooming...he should be here picking them for Mama. Next spring he will be here...God willing, that is.

I want to put a countdown clock until his birthday. But I'm afraid he won't be home before then and my heart will break having a visual reminder. What to do...what to do?

Friday, April 9, 2010


I did get a couple things accomplished today. I went to the DMV (finally) and changed my name on my license. I know I should have done it before now since we have been married for over 2 months, but I seem to be running around all over the place getting stuff for the adoption and the DMV just got overlooked. I have to change my name on my social security card too...according to the woman at DMV, I have 30 days to do that once I change it on my license. If I don't, they will suspend my license...and I can't have that happen. I also mailed off our background check forms. I included a cover letter explaining our situation with a cute pic of Little Man basically beggin them to do it quickly. It worked for our employement letter apostilles. I figured it couldn't hurt. As soon as I have our homestudy, and our doctor's letters (notarized), our dossier will be ready to send to Little Man's country. Then time will start ticking...or at least I hope!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Easy enough

Thankfully, today I was able to call the state police office and find out what we need to do to get our notarized background checks. It's pretty easy (compared to what some have had to do). We have to fill out a form and mail it in (or we could travel an hour and have it back the same day). Sadly though, I don't have a day off or time during any day of the week that I can do mine. They aren't open on weekends. They told me, though, that the turnaround is 5-7 days which I didn't find too long. It would have been longer if I had to wait to do mine until I had a day off. So I will be mailing off 2 forms tomorrow, with a money order for $60 to the state police office. Thankfully we don't have to do fingerprinting....that always seems to slow things down.

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

If you don't have anything nice to say...

I know you can finish that statement. All our mothers said it to us. I haven't really had anything nice to say for a few days (hence disappearing from blog land) I am just frustrated right now. Our homestudy should be done any day now...she has everything from us that she needs. I also found out that she cannot supply us with the notarized background checks that we need for our dossier. I wish I would have known that before, but there's nothing I can do about the time lost now. I just have to figure out how I go about getting what I need to bring Little Man home.

Thankfully Honey was finally able to have his physical done. Frustrating part, they didn't have a notary so he wasn't able to get the form we needed for our dossier. Our SW is a notary so she will go to the doctor's office sometime soon (we hope) and notarize the doctor's signature so we will have that form. Mine....I am still trying to figure out how to get it notarized. They don't have a notary and the office is kind of in the middle of nowhere. I guess I can ask my SW to go there too, but for some reason, I feel guilty about that. I have a serious issue with guilt feelings when I have to ask anyone for anything. Not sure why.

Also, I'm frustrated because I know there are two wonderful ladies in Little Man's country right now. They are visiting little ones in an orphanage there and 2 little guys in foster care. But my son isn't one of them. :( I would have loved to know that he was getting some loving even though it wasn't me giving it to him. And I would have loved to have new pics and an update on his development. But I won't get any of that.

I don't mean to sound like such a downer....I know we have only been in this process for 2 months, but I truly want my son here NOW!