Monday, September 27, 2010

How we knew...part 2

The family that had committed to Little Man soon set up a blog and I was happy to follow! I was happy watching them go through the process preparing to bring him home. Then, it seemed out of nowhere, he was back listed on the "other angels" page. My heart broke! So, once again I started praying for him...knowing that any day he would be back on the "found" area. Quite a while went by. I couldn't understand why he was still available. Remember...many families had inquired about him.

Fast forward to January 2010. I read on the message board that Little Man's country occasionally allowed singles to adopt on a case by case basis. Honey and I were engaged and living together (we were planning on getting married very soon). But...Honey was 51 and also had a "ding" on his background check from many years before. Little Man's country requires a COMPLETELY CLEAN BACKGROUND CHECK and prefers the adoptive parents be under 50. So, once again I inquired. I asked if I could adopt him as a single even though Honey and I lived together and explained about his age and background check issue. I was told that if we wanted to do this, we should just get married and try to get approval.

So, we got married. :) 9 days later, (on my birthday), we had our first meeting with our social worker. We also sent a permission request to Little Man's country to adopt. Just a week later, we received approval to adopt from his country. Against all odds...they approved us. Then there came the issue (from our social worker's point of view) about the length of our marriage. We had been together for 7 years and somehow, she was cool with that. She trusted that our relationship was strong even though we had only been married a VERY short time. :)

The rest of our process went relatively smoothly. When we hit a turned out to not really be a bump. (Does that make sense?) We missed traveling before the summer, but God had a reason. We will be going to get our son in November. We started the process on my birthday...we will be in Little Man's country on Honey's birthday. How cool is that?

So, that's how we knew.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

How we knew...part 1

Probably 4 or 5 years ago, I found an adoption blog/site that listed TONS of Ukrainian adoption blogs. For quite a long time, I felt that my child/ren would come from, I soaked up all the info I could on adoptions from Ukraine. I would read blogs for hours on end...looking at all the kids that were coming home and getting rare glimpses of other children that needed a family. It was probably June or July 2007 that I found a blog that would change my view. I came across Shelley's adoption blog for Xander. (BTW, thank you Shelley!!) She had a button on her blog for Reece's Rainbow and curiosity got me. I clicked over to see what Reece's Rainbow was. All of a sudden, the glimpses of children needing families were no longer rare. They were right in my face...everyday! I became addicted! I went to Reece's Rainbow EVERYDAY and stared at the many faces of children who were waiting...hoping. I fell in love with a new face almost daily. I prayed that one of the little ones would be mine. Honey and I weren't married at that point but Ukraine hadn't banned singles yet, so I still "had a chance." I waited for the time to be right...and my impatience was showing big time.

Fast forward to June 2008. A little boy was listed on the "other angels" page. He was an adorable little blond boy...who looked unbelievably like Honey. His eyes called to me. But his country did not accept singles to adopt. (He was not in Ukraine) Still, I inquired about him (in case Honey wanted to get married The response was something like, "We have several families who have made inquiries about him." So basically, even if Honey and I got married the very next day and started the process, it would be too late. Not too long after my inquiry, Little Man's picture was moved to the "my forever family found me" section. My heart hurt, but I was happy he found him family.

To be continued...

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Again with the dreams

Night before last I dreamed that Honey and I were there...waiting in a room for them to bring Little Man in. Then, he was there. Honey picked him up and plopped him in my lap and he was as happy as could be. He was all smiles and chatter. Then...they brought in a little girl. It was Nellie from Reece's Rainbow. She was my Christmas Angel last year. When I picked her up, she was all giggles and just such a happy baby. Now, I can't stop thinking about her. Sadly, at this time, adopting her is probably not possible. I'm not sure that our SW would approve us so soon (especially since Little Man isn't even home) and Nellie turns 4 in November. I pray that her orphanage is one of the ones that waits to transfer until age 5 so she might still have some time. I am hoping to have her as my Christmas Angel again this year. Maybe this dream was God's way of telling me that I needed to advocate for this child. Her parents are out there...finding them might be easier if she has a big grant.

So, last night's dream. I was looking on Reece's Rainbow and came to our FSP. We weren't at $0 anymore!! We had $500 in our family grant. I know that sounds silly for me to worry about that, but having someone contribute to our grant would make it feel like we have support. Ok, my pity party is over.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010


Honey bought our plane tickets today! He even bought Little Man's tickets! Honey and I worked together yesterday (doesn't happen often) and he called the travel agency from work. My belly was doing flip flops the whole time he was talking to the agent. This is really getting real and is freaking me out! Don't worry, I will return to normal sooner or later. I have been reading adoption blogs and researching adoption for 10+ years so the fact that is finally happening to me is a little overwhelming! But in a good way!!!

Monday, September 13, 2010

I wonder

When I sit alone...I think. There are so many questions that I have about Little Man. What is his favorite color? Is he a train boy or a truck boy (or both)? What does his little voice sound like? Does he like animals? Does he have a favorite cartoon?

But these questions bring up another set of questions. Does he know his colors? Has he even had the option to have favorite toys or does he just play with what he has? Has he started talking yet (he still wasn't speaking more than simple syllables when he was 4)? Will he be allergic or afraid of our pets? Does his foster family have a TV and if they do, do they let him watch cartoons?

Then more. Is he going to school? Will I find out any new info on his bio parents? Have his bio parents seen him since he was an infant? Is he afraid of the dark? What does he like to eat (and will I be able to find recipes to make some food he is familiar with)?

Am I going to drive myself crazy with questions? That I think I know the answer to!!

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Retail therapy

Are you a shopper? To be honest, I am not...really! Shopping quite often drives me nuts. Maybe it's because I am a "bigger lady" and clothes shopping is frustrating. Maybe it's because I am pretty frugal and hate spending money. Or maybe it's because I hate crowds and usually shopping places are pretty crowded. Whatever the reason, I don't like shopping. Or I didn't until now. I just want to go and buy stuff (clothing mostly) for Little Man. There is one problem...I am not sure on his size. I have had many people tell me that I should shop at a second hand store and usually I would be all over that. But I WANT to buy new stuff. Little Man is in foster care so it might not be the same as children in orphanages, but it is possible that he has never had anything that was HIS. I will probably buy him used clothing (there is a GREAT 2nd hand place here) when he is home. But I want the first clothes that we dress him in to be all his. What are you thoughts on this? He turned 6 in August. I have some shirts that are 5/6 and I have had some tell me that he will probably be smaller. But stating this again...he has been in foster care for 2 years. He might have been smaller in the orphanage, but do you think he might have caught up some being in a family? I just don't know. I don't want to spend a ton on clothes that won't fit, but I want to have enough.

Thursday, September 9, 2010


Yes, you read that right! We got our travel date today!! I had to work today, but decided to check email first. I wasn't sure why...I had checked email countless times over the last week and a half or so. But I checked anyway. And there was an email with "TRAVEL DATE" as the subject line. I could feel my heart beating in my throat. I opened the email and it told me that we have to be in Little Man's country on November 15th. Yes, this is a little later than we had hoped for...but it doesn't matter because we have a concrete date! There are a couple other families that have been waiting forever to go get their little ones and I am happy that they get to go first. It is only fair...and I am all about fair, lol! One of the families has been in the process of adoption since last June...meaning June 2009. I am so very happy that they can bring their son home!

I REALLY need to get his room done.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Another weird dream

Sometimes dreams drive me nuts. Early this morning was another example. I dreamed that Honey and I were in Boston on vacation. I checked email and realized there was an email from our facilitator telling us that Little Man's country wanted us there ASAP. So, Honey packed our suitcases and we went to the airport. He bought tickets to Little Man's country. Then it dawned on me. We didn't have our paperwork. We didn't have our passports. We didn't have any clothing other than what we had brought for this short vacation. We didn't have the money. But Honey was decided...we were going! I woke up anxious and totally confused. I almost expected to come downstairs and find an email saying we needed to get going. But I didn't. The officials were supposed to all be back by the 1st of September. We hopefully will hear something soon. I just need to make sure not to tell Honey until I have everything together. :)

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Tomatoes, cucumbers and green beans...oh my

Having a garden is wonderful! Everything ripening at once is a little overwhelming! But getting everything processed, canned, frozen...ready to be eaten during the winter is so fulfilling! I have probably 35 pints of pickles in the basement. Thanks to a wonderful blog/adoption friend, I have an amazing recipe for tomato soup and pizza sauce. So there are many pints of that right next to the pickles. I have so much zucchini puree, shredded zucchini and chopped zucchini in my freezer. I even have pickled some zucchini. I have soup fixings frozen together (squash, zucchini, green beans) so vegetable soup will be yummy on those cold New England winter nights. I am making tomato sauce today and will probably end up canning 6 or 7 pints of that. Gotta love "free" food. I know it's not really free especially when I count the cost of new canning jars, but knowing we will have enough pickles, pasta sauce, salsa, tomato soup and pizza sauce (probably for the year) is wonderful!