Saturday, October 15, 2011

Almost 2 months?

Has it really been that long since I posted anything? I am so very sorry! To be totally honest, I have just been too tired to do much on the internet lately. I am only supposed to be part time at work but lately, the hours have been available so I have worked all that is possible for me to work. I can work full days on Honey's days off, and on week days when he works, I can work 9-2 while Vlado is in school. So, I have had way more full time weeks lately and it has left me exhausted. I'm not sure how moms who work full time do it! Working that much and then taking care of my little man wipes me out!

Now for a Vlado update. He is doing really well! He is learning so much and seems to be soaking so much in so fast. School is, um, interesting this year. He only has an aid for actual learning stuff, ie math, reading ,writing. He does have an ELL teacher regularly which is so much better than last year. But a problem we are having is that when he doesn't have an aid with him, he has a problem understanding what is appropriate and what is not. There are a few children who find it funny to teach him things that he shouldn't know. When he does/says things he shouldn't and the teacher tells him no (but the kids laugh), who do think he listens to? He has lost so much play time and even had to sit out during a science time (outside) because he kept sticking his tongue out and trying to touch the other kids with his tongue. UGH! We think a big problem is that when he doesn't understand exactly what is going on (like during science) he gets bored and then finds things to entertain himself. He doesn't try any of the stuff they tell me about when he is with us...that's why I think the other kids are a big part of the problem. They think it is funny to get him to.....run after another child trying to kiss them, call other kids names (psycho seems to be a favorite of one of the kids), and the tongue thing was probably suggested to him too. I am very frustrated because as soon as we get to understand that one thing isn't acceptable, we are told about yet another behavior. He has a list of about 10 things that we go through every morning of things not to do. "We don't kiss at school. We don't stick our tongue out. We don't hit. We don't kick." And on and on. I am almost ready to pull him out of school and homeschool him until he is 100% communicative in English and can understand that he needs to listen to teachers and not the other kids. I just am not sure if the social interaction is worth him constantly getting into trouble. I am trying to prepare myself for the day when another parent complains because my child did something to their child. It is bound to happen if other kids keep teaching him bad stuff. :( I do realize that several of these things are normal kid behavior, but the teacher has actually told me that she has seen/heard other kids telling him to do the behaviors. So, I don't think he is doing them to be naughty....he just doesn't understand that the kids aren't his boss (so to speak).

1 comments:

  1. First, don't let anyone tell you he has problems with impulse control. If that were the case, he'd be doing the the same things weather you were around or not! No, he hasn't learned "conscience" yet. Something kids raised in a family develop in toddlerhood, but kids from an institution never get that step. That he's accountable to mom and dad even when he can't see them. It takes awhile for that to develop and it happens in small steps. Another thing, school needs to be very careful about taking away recess time (if it's recess time they're taking away.) It's one of the biggest mistakes teachers make, and an experienced teacher knows not to make it. Taking away the opportunity for a child to burn off extra steam only ADDS to their problems in the classroom. All of the problems you're having with Vlad in school are the exact same problems we're having with Axel in school (only his behaviors are a bit more..um...troubling.) I started a series about this very thing a couple weeks ago but never finished it. I'll try to finish it tonight.

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