Saturday, April 14, 2012

Vlado - coming with us

Honey and I have both had MANY people ask the same question over the last few days. So, I'm thinking there are others that have the same question.

The question is this. Do you think Vlado will be scared going back to the orphanage?

First of all, let me assure you that Honey and I have thought long and hard about this. We are completely aware that the first couple days might be very scary and anxiety provoking for our little man. He did live in the orphanage for the first 4 years of his life. He was in foster care for 2 years before we met him and took him to live with us. Even though he had been away from the orphanage for 2 years, we know that he remembered at least some of it by his reaction when we went to visit the orphanage during our last week there. He was clingy and a little withdrawn while we were there, but he seemed to relax relatively quickly when we left.

We feel that, even if he is nervous at first, this experience will end up strengthening his bond to us. We will go to the orphanage to visit little brother, but at the end of the visit, all three of us will go back to our apartment together. I think it will become even more clear to him (over the first few days especially) that we are a family and we are "stuck" together....and we aren't going to leave him. I'm sure he will need a lot of extra holding and snuggles during this time. He might regress a little or a lot. We truly are prepared. We have been talking to him for a while about this trip. I hope he understands, but if he doesn't....he will get it soon. He's a pretty smart kiddo!

We are 36 hours or so from takeoff!

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